For us, the Asking is a transforming attitude and a procedure through which we can clarify our needs and concentrate our energy on the achievement of our aspirations. Obviously, “my needs” are not limited to my own personal situation but also extend to my “world,” including my loved ones and all those whose presence exists within me and who contribute to the shaping of my internal world.
This Asking highlights a mechanism of “best wishes” or “good intentions,” with which we often express ourselves almost spontaneously. We say, “Have a good day,” “Happy birthday to you, and many more,” “I hope your test goes well,” or “I hope everything turns out well,” etc. It is clear that in this ceremony the “Asking” is done with a good mental disposition, where the emphasis is on intense affective registers. This “Asking” for benefit for others, performed in the best conditions, places us in a mental position where we are predisposed to give needed help; moreover, it also improves our mental direction, strengthening in us possibilities of communication with others.
A very important point to consider in relation to the “Askings” is to carry them out so that others can overcome their difficulties and reestablish their best possibilities. There should be no confusion about this. Let us consider an example. One might assume that in the case of someone who is dying, an Asking for the recovery of their health is the most appropriate thing, since we are trying to diminish the person’s pain and suffering. But we must be careful how we focus the Asking, because it is not a question of asking for what is best for ourselves, who want to keep that person in good health and close to us. The correct Asking should aim at what is best for the dying person and not what is best for us. In this situation, where we are emotionally attached to that person who is suffering and dying, perhaps we should also consider that the person may wish to leave that situation, reconciled and at peace with him or herself. In this case, the Asking is for “the best for the affected person” and not what is best for me, who wants to hold on to that person at all costs. So, in Asking for others I must consider what is best for them, and not for me.
Do not imagine that you are alone in your village, in your city, on the Earth, or among the infinite worlds.